Pros and cons of dating in high school
Indeed, there are pros and cons to both staying with and leaving your high school sweetheart while transitioning to college, and findings from relationship research can help shed some light on this dilemma.Although no study (to my knowledge) has directly explored how transitions to college may affect romantic relationships, we may be able to draw several inferences from studies of related issues. There are undeniable challenges to maintaining your high school romantic relationship while transitioning to college.
Likewise, there is a possibility that your new social networks may not approve of your partner – social network approval, of course, can determine the fate of relationships.
Still, how may the transition to college itself affect your relationship?
In a study of a related question -- how the transition to college affects high school best friendships -- college students’ satisfaction and commitment toward friends declined between the fall and spring semesters of their freshmen year (even if the high school best friend lived close by).
These declines, however, only occurred for those who spent relatively little time communicating with their friends.
Now that the summer is coming to a close, young adults are fervidly preparing for their transition to college (though they may be more excited about leaving their parents’ house).
College, of course, offers incoming students many social novelties: independence, new friends, all-nighters to cram for finals, and perhaps even new “temptations” around campus (you may very well find yourself checking out the Facebook page of the person in the next dorm).But what if you are entering the ivy-covered walls while still involved in a relationship with your high school sweetheart?Should you break up with your romantic partner, or should you maintain the relationship?Thus, communication is an integral part of keeping your relationship intact while away in college.Communication barriers, however, may not necessarily be the only challenges facing two lovers during the transition to college.Unlike best friendships, romantic relationships entail sexuality, which may be fairly difficult to maintain via telephone (sexting – or even sex-Skyping – not withstanding).