Have you ever met a girl that you tried to date But a year to make love she wanted you to wait Let me tell ya a story of my situation I was talkin' to this girl from the U. nation The way that I met her was on tour at a concert She had long hair and a short miniskirt I just got onstage drippin', pourin' with sweat I was walkin' through the crowd and gues who I met I whispered in her ear, Come to the picture booth So I can ask you some questions to see if you are a hundred proof I asked her her name, she said blah-blah-blah She had 9/10 pants and a very big bra I took a couple of flicks and she was enthused I said, How do you like the show? Just imagine how pathetic you'd feel if you meant it. I'm smiling at your face, but this warmth isn't from you.

He had been out of an 8 year relationship/engagement for about a year and was looking to move on in life.

We dated for about 3 months and it ended because we were both not truly ready for a real true relationship. I contacted him because I missed him and he says he misses me too.

However, he said he is not ready for a relationship.

He doesn't want me out of his life completely and want to be friends with him also. We respect each other a lot and can have a great friendship.

I get your question a lot, and what I always say is that it comes down to what you can live with; knowing what his terms are, what being with him on his terms is worth to you.

Whether you'd rather be with him on his terms - which is friendship right now so this is the reality of what is right now - or release yourself from him so that you can focus fully on being with someone who wants the whole package that you want - but without him.

It sounds like you've already answered this question for yourself when you say "But I am happier being his friend than not having him in my life at all".

I'm scared because I still love him, and I may end up wanting more.

I really don't know how to go about this or what to do. Here is my response to our beautiful friend, who I'll call "Sandie": Dear Sandie, I wrote a post about exactly what you're going through here, called It's Your Decision.