It may be time to deal with reality and learn to cope with the situation.Getting over her and getting her out of your system is harder than stopping a three-pack a day nicotine habit.

Parting is not the end but the beginning of a painful healing process that may catch you by surprise once you’re on your own.

The truth is, you cannot rush the healing of the emotional attachment or the physical addiction.

You can, however, get your head in the right place.

You can stare down denial by getting the facts of the situation straight in your mind. She has no commitment to you and you have none to her. You can calm the anger by understanding that she has the right to move on with her life.

She is free to love again and does not have to join a nunnery just to appease your insecurities. Once you have the denial and anger under control, that is the time you can get an honest, realistic and detached perspective on the situation.

Of course, you’re suffering the brunt of a double-whammy.

It’s not just the raw emotions left over from the relationship with your ex.

You can never walk away from a close relationship in one whole piece.

Whether you leave on good terms, bad terms, as the one who got dumped or the one who dumped her, there are always frazzled edges, unbroken connections, lingering feelings and second thoughts.