) boyfriend told me I was the first mentally healthy woman he dated in 3 years.

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He gets his butt kicked time and again and then cries on my shoulder.

I’ve tried all the big dating websites and I go out a lot (that is another weird phenomenon – men my age sit home on the weekends and don’t go out and do anything so I never meet anyone by just going out and having fun).

So Evan where can I find the emotionally available mentally healthy men who will appreciate a woman like me? Joan A very honest letter, Joan, which is particularly timely, given yesterday’s thematically similar posting. Now, by your estimation, there are no men out there who are either a) interested or b) qualified for a long-term relationship. And let’s delve into the assertion that “being a pretty, happy, vivacious ‘cool chick’ is a big negative strike against you. What is true is that your options are unfairly limited.

I’m a 42 year old single mom who is very attractive (I look about 7 years younger), fun, has a great smile and laugh (and does both a LOT), emotionally stable, and not looking to race to the altar.

And I definitely fit the definition of a “cool chick” – and my guy friends will confirm:-).” Unfortunately, the pool of men that I’m dating from (early to mid 40s, usually divorced) are pretty messed up.

A number of them want younger women (never mind that I look much younger) – didn’t anyone tell these guys that women hit their sexual prime over 40:-)?

I’m besieged by the 50+ set even though our lives are completely different (like my kids are young and theirs are grown and they don’t want anymore).

A number of gentlemen I’ve met shouldn’t have been dating at all because they are still grieving.

And the most surprising phenomenon that I’ve witnessed in this pool of men is that being a pretty, happy, vivacious “cool chick” is a big negative strike against me.