be a deal breaker for the guy who is taking you out.

When your co-worker offers to do work he was responsible for anyways, you say thank you.

When a cop issues you a speeding ticket the last words to come out of your mouth are not “Screw you!

” They’re “Thank you kindly officer and you have a wonderful day and I wish your kids all the best and stay warm out here because brrrrr!

” But last week she said one cumulative, “Thanks.” Thanks?! $300 later, 45 miles of driving, and shopping and I got a thanks at the Delta terminal. For the brave souls out there who really want to take it to the next level, how about a fake reach for the wallet/purse when the timing feels right?

MORE: 5 Ways to Be Irresistible to Men A recent survey found that 87% of men want a “Thank you” text after a date. The question then becomes when do I send the text and what should it say? He shouldn’t even have time to check the Knicks score of the game he missed while he was busy trying to be witty with you for the past two hours. I came home that night, from the date, and told my friends about this attractive, fun, outgoing, spontaneous, conversational girl I just spent the past six hours with…and when I told them she did not show the trait of appreciation…it was a resounding no. If you say those two words (hint: thank you), the likelihood of us saying those three words (hint: I love you) someday are much, much greater.

Listen to me and listen good because I am about to rock your socks off! It should say something to the tune of: “I had a really nice time tonight.” Period.

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I am sorry to use the “hotness scale” in my explanation of events but it seems it is the best way to get my point across. Most of us will compliment your outfit, or your hair, or your shoes because we know you spent exponentially more time picking them out then we did whatever we have on. We all know that any decent dude is not going to allow it so all the more so a reason for the gesture. I want to add one last piece about the concept of permanently acquiring the attribute of gratefulness.

Before the date’s events, the aforementioned female was a solid 8. After the revelation of her ungrateful nature she legitimately dropped to a 5. You look like a generous, one-of-a-kind, diamond in the rough type of girl that doesn’t have a sense of entitlement and we get to look like heroes waving away your act of kindness as we hand the waiter the .95 for two lattes. The beginning stages of dating are there to show your best self. First of all, how do you add a quality that doesn’t exist? Do this every day and I promise you at least 50% happier days (All percentage references will be fictional): When you wake up the first thing you should do is use all five senses to appreciate the gift of a brand new day.