In the world of a British Indian we are closed books when it comes to dating.Unless we are ready to take the next step of marriage, we usually have to be discreet about our relationships, due to the pressures that will come from our elders.

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On the other hand, I have struggled with this in the past, due to me having been brought up in a diverse, multi-racial country where Indian people are a minority. I’m on it and most of the people there are any other race apart from Indian.

Also, if I don’t follow my religion to the book, why should I have to marry someone from it?

It should be about someone’s personality and the chemistry you have with them.

As a young Sikh, dating in the modern age can be tricky when you come from a family of traditional values.

How do you uphold your cultural beliefs and try to date at the same time?

I am a 24-year-old Indian lad who was born into a Sikh household.

Now, I admit I am not particularly strict, (especially as I eat meat and drink alcohol) but I do follow a lot of the traditions upheld with Sikhism. Not just the pressure of dating, but the pressure to date someone who is the same religion and caste as you.

In Indian culture we do have a hierarchal caste system, which is still prominent to this day, and while it’s true that there are Indian families who adopt a modern view on dating, my family fall into the old school category …which is where, for me, modern dating gets complicated.

As my parents adopt this old school mentality, they want me to find a girl not only in the same religion but also from the same caste.

My mum’s take on the matter is, “Yes, I do want my kids to marry into the same religion and caste, as I want my grandchildren to have the same values and same traditions we have”.

This is a fair point because I do believe if I dated a girl of the same caste and religion, then our values would be inherited down to the next generation, ensuring our beliefs didn’t get lost.