In case you're wondering, one divorced dad swept me off my feet (then dropped me over a ledge).Another captured my heart (and still holds it, most tenderly).And one remains a trusted friend to this day (and I'm glad).

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Unless of course you're looking for a fling (like him), looking to experiment (as is he), or looking to get your heart broken.

Be particularly cautious if he's already looking for Spouse #2. Do pay attention to what your kids think of him, and what his kids think of you.

We all need time to heal and don't want to plunge blindly into the rebound relationship. Periods of adjustment are to be expected, especially if things heat up.

But extreme discomfort, acting out, and outright interference may signal issues just beneath the surface.

All I can say is this: Listen to your gut, listen to your gut, listen to your gut -- no matter what others think and how good things seem on the surface.

Be sure to take your time to get to know him, his family, his friends, his co-workers. There is never a good reason to rush a relationship -- especially if you have kids.

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If you each have children at different stages -- for example, your kids are in elementary school and his are in college -- anticipate some potential problems if you're hoping for a long-term relationship.

While you may have help that frees you up for the occasional vacation, dating with kids at different ages and stages can pose logistical and financial challenges, much like age-stage differences in the couple itself.

Do listen if he says he isn't interested in helping to parent your kids, he's tired of you only being available for a weekend relationship, or he can't afford to pick up the financial slack for a single mother with children.

And that's despite the fact that you're working two jobs already, and he may be working two jobs of his own.