At least at church I can presume that the men I'm surrounded by share my faith, and that we have similar beliefs and values in common.However, as the years have passed by, the dates I've had with men at church have been rather few and far between.

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One writer finds out the surprising reasons, and what those mean for all the single ladies...

"I've only gone out with a couple of girls at church, and I won't do it anymore," says Luke*, a 40-year-old Christian man living in Southern California.

"At this point, I'm happily resigned to not ask a girl out at church ever again." This was one of the first statements I heard from the group of four Christian men I interviewed last week—and we'll just call them Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John.

They all attend Bel Air Presbyterian Church, and range in age from 28 to 40 years old.

"We're all single, yet no one is being asked out. On a mission to answer this question, and many others, I talked informally with a group of men in New York City, and then sat down with the guys from Bel Air Presbyterian to chat about the pursuit of love, about Christian dating, and about why on earth they don't want to date women who go to their church.

The men need to step it up." The Church Convinced Me Not To Have Sex Or, perhaps the women need to step it up? Their answers were rather complex and revealed a whole host of issues I never would have considered. Their frustration with pursuing women at church has little to do with laziness, or indifference about dating. Some had even been married or engaged in the past, and now found themselves single once again.

Here is a little snapshot of what I learned from them over an evening of pizza and beer. My Strict Christian Faith Is The Reason I Can't Find A Man When I asked them why they wanted to get married, Luke, age 40, admitted that he's wanted to be married and have kids ever since he was an adolescent.

In addition, they are all currently single, and their words formed a striking correlation with what I heard from the single, Christian men in New York City: They're all interested in finding someone to spend their lives with, but not particularly keen on finding her at church.

11 Reasons Men Who Go To Church Make The BEST Husbands As a single Christian woman, this isn't exactly what I wanted to hear.