Dating a girl who is haphazard with her sexual health is a Deal Breaker and, although it's an awkward conversation to have, you need to know before you get active that she's wise with her choices and regularly checked.Sexual safety is really damn important, because if it goes wrong, it can go HIV, so don't be stupid.Make sure you're dating an actual grown up who doesn't believe that "Lesbians don't get STD's" which is like when my 16 year old sister told me she couldn't get pregnant on her period.

So if all of her Facebook pictures are taken at your local lez-club or she's on first name terms with half the staff, she's probably still in single mode.

Now if you'd like to have your heart slowly and sorely broken then be my guest, but for me, the Scene Queen mentality is a Deal Breaker.

Falling for someone who has spent months playing "Lesbian Dating Musical Chairs" is the quickest way to a broken heart, a third cat, and probably an STD.

Bringing me nicely to - Yes, lesbians can get STD's and we need to stop thinking we can't.

Now I'm all for women testing the waters, (it's filled many a happy Sunday) but frown when I see them leading someone on.

It's a simple rule of thumb - If she's not telling anyone about you, then she's not that's a capital B), there's no pecking order and bi-hate is poisonous. We have enough hatred to contend with; let's leave the judgemental glares to the uninformed, shall we?

And not within the very community that's supposed to embrace freedom of sexuality.

Dating is a minefield, with many a malfunction just waiting to happen. As if dating wasn't hard enough already, life decided to throw in some extra issues for us lady-loving-ladies.

Everyone has their Deal Breakers; Smokers, kids; A disagreement on what number of cats is acceptable. Thanks, All lesbians are aware of the perils of dating someone your ex has had their hands on, and it just isn't worth it.

Performing a background check to make sure you don't have any exes in common with your date is a uniquely gay necessary evil.

Sitting down over your first glass of Chardonnay and listing your recent partners in the order of how much you care(d) about them is seat-squirmingly awkward, but it's undeniable - Having an ex in common is riddled with issues. Knowing the bouncer, the barmaid and the bulk of the crowd in the gay club is great when you're single, but if you're serious about finding someone you tend to slow it down.